I drunkenly birthed this blog 53 months ago today, as I drained my second bottle of red wine for the night. It was the last time I drank alcohol. A lot has changed since then. Hang around recovery circles long enough and you’ll hear these words: if nothing changes, nothing changes. They’re words to live […]
Hey, Mercury Retrograde, Whatcha Got For Me This Time?
We’re in Mercury retrograde. Again. It started yesterday and will continue through March 28, 2019. Consider yourself warned. Before I got sober, I’d never even heard of Mercury retrograde. I can’t remember exactly when I first learned about it but, if memory serves (and it totally may not serve because my brain seems to be […]
Four Years Sober and Learning More Every Day
Four years ago today, I ended a six-week relapse and took my last sip of alcohol. I call it a relapse now but, in all honestly, when I first stopped drinking in June 2014 I had no intention of making it a forever thing. It was just a good long break to get healthy for […]
How I Plan to Harness Plenitude in 2019
Sitting with my mug of tea and few minutes of quiet this morning, I am reflecting on the last 12 months. Was it a great year? Certainly not. Was it the worst year on record? Nope. But, oh my hell, it had its moments. There were lower than low moments when I said, “Not this. […]
It’s Never Too Late to Unplug and There’s No Time Like the Present
I have been so busy making a living and making sure everyone around me is living that I’ve lost sight — again — of living my best life, not only what that looks like for me but also how everyone is better off when I am showing myself some love and attention. What I forget […]
Staying Sober When Bad Things Happen
May! Wow, finally. And, spring. Well, maybe not. I think we skipped a season and went straight to summer. After what felt like the longest winter ever, we got some 80+ degree days this week and I have to say I don’t really mind sweating. But, what I kinda, sorta mind is feeling like I’ve […]
Sobriety is a Super Power, Not a Magic Wand
I started dating my now husband of 17 years just 12 days before Valentine’s Day. Twenty-three years ago. I can’t recall how long we’d been together before he told me he didn’t believe in Valentine’s Day. “There shouldn’t be special day to celebrate your love for someone,” he said. “You should celebrate it every day.” […]
News: Alcohol Use Disorder Increases Among Women
On December 21, 2017, I sat down for a quick conversation with NBC Connecticut’s Kevin Nathan. We talked about how alcohol use disorder in women increased nearly 84% between 2001 and 2012. That’s insane. And terrifying. And it’s strong evidence that the holiday season — when the booze flows much, much heavier than usual — […]
What Happened When I Stopped Dreaming About My Ideal Life
It’s not truly broken until you look at all the shattered pieces and have no idea how to put them back together again. Right? That’s what I used to think. It’s how I used to live my life, even after I stopped drinking. I was content to let my health and finances suffer … as […]